I think your meeting tonight sounds wonderful. I imagine even if it's not exactly what you are looking for it may well tune you into something that is your speed.I hope you have some fun and meet some interesting people.
Now, I must say, I think your efforts to make him feel at home are inadvisable. If he is concerned about his privacy, I can't imagine how he's going to feel when he discovers you have gone through and re-arranged his things and room. I understand you were well intentioned but this strikes me as an invasion of privacy.
It sounds to me from your description that you are fussing over him. To a man, this feels like pursuit. I suggest you absolutely stop 'anticipating his needs' and watching his every reaction for clues to his mental state. Stop doing his laundry, asking him what he wants or cleaning up after him. By all means be respectful but don't hang on his every word. Just my opinion.
