Drop the rope...then, and only then, will you be in my shoes. I have zero idea if my marriage will survive his affair. Only I can make that call.

Almost to the minute that I emotionally drop the "rope" he came back.

For me dropping the "rope" was: giving up on the "what if..." statements. The BIGGEST one was "what if I have to move from my house of 18 years?" I finally arrived at an answer I could live with..big fvcking deal~ I get to move~

He must have sensed an immediate change. He, the house, the future no longer had a grip on me or control over me.

me:51
H: 48
No kids together
M:14 years
seperated:Ask him to GET OUT 3/21/11
Piecing 09/14