It's been a while...

[AntoniaB]

I agree with Eric. If I look over your list of reasons to allow him back they have mostly to do with anything BUT you. You let him back for all those reasons, you sacrifice yourself for the reasons (potentially). I think I'd want to be at fully and completely in love with my ex and he in return, all issues taken care of, before I'd let him move back in. You can be separated and date until things seem more stable.

I'm sure this is all very tempting and just like Eric said, no one wants to rain on your parade, but be very careful. I am friends with someone who took her ex back after about that time period and she immediately said "well, if it doesn't work out, it will be the final FINAL end to everything." It didn't work out, and guess what? She tried to make it be the final FINAL end and he is still off and on contacting her and putting her through an emotional rollercoaster.

Good luck.