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[ericmsant2]

Dmk,
I do not know your whole story but here are my comments:

It’s nice, when dealing with two small kids to have an extra set of hands.

So is a reason that you need help with the kids? Do YOU think that is a valid reason?

We haven’t fought over anything big in about six months or so.

Define BIG – Six months…wow…what about six years.

He swears it’s not financial – he doesn’t care if he’s poor,

What do you think…is it financial? The hell with what he thinks or says….You may be in a better place to determine if indeed it is not financial.

but he misses his family. Not just the kids, he even told me he loved me yesterday.

Do ALL of HIS actions for the past 6 months say that he LOVES you? Or are you the back up plan. Only YOU know the answer.

My mom is having surgery next month and we’re going to have to pay my sister for childcare. Plus, we want to put DD1 in preschool this fall. It would be great to not have to worry about finances as much.

Do you want a baby sitter, extra set of hands or a PARTNER that respects and truly loves you?

I think it might be easier on the kids too – more often than not now DD1 doesn’t want to go over to his apartment, and DD2 always wants to be with Daddy

Kids are a good reason to give things a second chance. IF that is truly what YOU want in YOUR heart. Not because it is easier…but because you truly want and believe that this person can participate in YOUR happiness.

I would be able to do stuff that I wouldn’t be able to otherwise – go to the gym, go out with friends if he’s home even if he has to work in the morning, take showers by myself, etc.

Scratch this reason…I’d hire a baby sitter.

then there’s some finality to our relationship.

Don’t you determine when it is over? When it is final.
DMK, I am not trying to rain on your parade…but what I see is a relationship of convenience. If that is what you want then go for it. How about you guys try dating for a bit BEFORE he moves back in. How about you work on trust BEFORE you have him move in.
A few other things to consider…
Does he make you laugh
Can you believe him
Is this good for the kids
Does Therapy sound like a good idea
In closing…slow is sometimes much better.
Good luck and God Bless,
Eric