Irish
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I am a divorced mother of 3.

Sorry Irish….I want to modify your statement….How does I am a “strong”, “independent”, “caring”, “funny”, divorced mother of 3!
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But where I am struggling the most is trying to define what I want.

Maybe the struggle is not “defining” what you want as much as it may be being patient enough to allow what you want to just happen. Maybe the struggle is trying to “control, drive, shape” what you want instead of just being still and allowing what you want to take shape/form when it is time for it to take shape/form. I say this based on my own experiences of trying to hard to “force” the next steps. Just something to consider.
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How do I decide what it is I want?

Add 1 year of healing
Add 1 year of just enjoying life day by day
Add a few weeks over the course of the year to cry, whine, *itch and moan
Add a vacation
Add TIME (no amount is too much or too little)

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but your new self is just looking at all these possibilities, and eventually, SHE will take over

Spot on….when SHE is READY…not a day before and not a day after….it will just happen.

Take your time Irish….Take your time….rushing it will only cause more pain and confusion. Look up, bend the knees…he will answer in HIS time – NOT ours.

On a final note….do not be afraid to make mistakes. Do not be afraid to step outside your comfort zone. Do not be afraid to try something new.

Oh…and I agree with Punkin…ya sound soooo much different that months ago..so much so. Take stock in where you were and where you are and JUST HOW FAR you have come. Be proud of yourself!

God Bless,
Eric


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