I keep getting encouraged by my porn addiction site to write a letter to my wife. Whether or not she reads/takes it to heart, the idea is to lay it out there, be honest, open, sincere, acknowledge and apologize for hurting her. Couple of things stump me, though:
1. I always wrote a letter/card to my wife when I messed up to apologize, so I'm quite certain writing a letter has lost its meaning to her. 2. Yet on the other hand, my wife is the type of person who desires people to acknowledge their mistakes, take responsibility for them, and provide her a sincere apology. She had major issues with her parents (which resulted in her cutting them off from her life) during our marriage and what she told me constantly was all she wanted was a sincere apology from her mom and dad. That's it.
So what now? I worry that if I give her a letter now, it might drive her away or just remind her of the same old Alamo. Conversely, I want to lay it bare to her, because I owe her at least that much to acknowledge her feelings and actions.
