Quite the weekend, OMW. There it was, eh? The pull back.
One of the things that I have been told and to some degree expect (dare I say "hope"?) is that W would crash soon. Perhaps then W will take the time to work through the "hard stuff" (as opposed to facing reality). Reality is not (just) what we perceive, but what the individual perceives about themselves and the world around them. So our reality is much, much different than our W's reality.
So as I said, I'd hope that my W would crash so that she can face her reality and the reality of the position of our kids and what's "right" for them. The truth is, she may never crash.
Like your W, mine has her core support group. Her OM35 is part of that group. There is definitely an EA there, if not a PA. And that's neither here nor there, nothing I can do about that. But if she continues to be "enabled" by this group and keeps getting her emotions fed, she won't crash (or if she does, they will help her piece her life together in a way that suits them) and eventually that will simply become her new reality. It already is, but I'm talking about something that sticks and becomes permanent.
There's nothing we can do other than continuing to be the new us, GALing, etc. If any of that "better us" gets experienced by our Ws, it will be up to them to have feelings of doubt or denial (leaving us was "right") or have feelings of loss and desire (to have us back).
Keep on keeping on, OMW. You really are doing great!
