Just putting thoughts here:

Reading W's email above, just like CS said with the previous email. It reads completely reasonable.

This is where it get completely frustrating. Because in a "perfect" world, what W is suggesting IS reasonable. And my reaction to it would come across as me being a complete jerk.

All I am asking for is fair access to kids. Unsaid and unknown to the passer by, W has indicated in previous conversation that with my "new" living arrangement, my available time for the kids is on the weekends. W suggested that she is not comfortable with not ever having the kids on the weekends. Wouldn't think that would be "fair".

So, I have no idea how to get an appropriate and fair 50/50 custody of kids without me appearing to be unreasonable. Because again, W has in the past indicated that she wants the kids to be at her place during the week so that they have "routine" and a sense of "home".

So I'm fighting for what is fair and proper to the kids, as expressed by many child psychologists (equal access and time with both parents) as well as "fair" for me in regards to 50/50 access to kids vs. my W's "reasonable" requests for time with the kids and other obligations when they are taken in context of "one request at a time".

I am being pushed from my hard earned 70/30 (W/me) split with kids to where I had them every Sunday and Monday (and that was really just D8; D13 only stayed on Sundays for the most part; that is a completely different discussion), because of what would be a "reasonable" request from my W in it's own, separate context, of 86/14 custody (2 out of every 14 days; or every second weekend)...

Guess it sux to be me. I should have thought about that when I decided to move out. Yes, that's sarcasm.

Honestly? I am asking for advice here. I look like I'm being a jerk and over reacting to what, on the surface, appears to be a reasonable request from my W. When there is so much more going on underneath.

Do I just walk away and be happy with what W "gives" me, regarding access to the kids? Because when I do that, I come across as, for all intents and purposes, abandoning the kids. I'm not talking about how I appear in the public eye, though. This is about ME and the KIDS. This is about what's right for the kids!

But I should just go out and GAL...

THIS is where my anger comes from.

OK, enough on that. I am going to have a good day and not worry about this. Accept my life for what it is and be grateful that I get to see the kids at all.