I'm lost, need help. WAW

[islander]

I think you have gotten pretty good advice so far, but I don't think I would be pushing for your W to move out. And I definitely don't think you should move out of the house either. I think for me, deciding to stay was the best decision that I made. I actually think that I made a mistake whn I left for 2 weeks after the bomb. It is so much harder to db when you are not living in the same house together. Sometimes I think that my W thinks more like "out of sight, out of mind"...at a minimum, that is how she acts.

And I would never tell your W that you agree with the separation or D. Why would you say that if it's not true. Just learn from it, I know you already said it. And I think she knows that you didn't mean it based on hour posts.

As far as you laying for her apartment??? Idk. Does she work??? If not, can she. If she can, she needs to get a job and do this on her own, IMO.

And about the OM. I think it is very likely that the OM has been in the picture longer than you think. Maybe not, but it doesn't really change anything either way. Just prepare yourself for that possibility so that you can handle it better than being blind sided. It seems that most of us on here are dealing with some sort of A with our WAS.

Just try to be patient. Time is your freind. It seems like your W has not thought this fully through. This is your chance to make her second guess herself. The way you tell it, she will be living in an empty apartment with no job or money. Doesnt sound to great to me.

These are just some of my thoughts. If you read my sitch, you know how many mistakes I have made. Hang in there ok.