Denver, it seems like you were in a tough spot tonight, nothing you could do would made it any better, and you handled yourself pretty well. It seems like that during the db process, we start to "agree" with everything the WAS says in order to validate, but at some point, like tonight for you, it is just not realistic. I think you made several good points with your W that she probably needed to hear.
Your W tells you you are too strict, but you don't stand up for her with SS. What are you supposed to do with that. Maybe just realize that she is very confused right now. How is OM any sort of father figure for your SS when you are the one who has been in his life. I think you did well with that, bc I probably would have lost it.

And I know how much it hurts what your SS said about moving home, but kids will say anything to hurt somebody when they are hurting.

Like I said, you did pretty well tonight given everything that happened.

BITS

M:34 W:28
SD:9
D:6 (pr)
M:3 T:6
Separated 1/16/11
ILYBNILWY 10/25/10
PA discovered 11/12/10, began about 10/1/10

I am not who I was, I am being remade, I am new...