But I still stay a little dim right. I only respond and dont initiate contact correct?
Right! You don't contact her. Continue to do like you've been doing, but when she does talk to you....don't come across as the XH who has a bad attitude. That will be your test, I think, b/c you have every right to a bad attitude but if you've made up your mind to try to draw her back, then she's got to see that new man.......not the one she cheated on.
The other test for you will be wanting her to commit to the M, and she probably won't do that until much later down the road. I can't remember verbally telling my H that I would commit to the M again. It came in such tiny baby-steps! But, I've read people's threads that said the WAW did verbally commit.
Quote:
I used to love it , just think it might be tough to stay in the flirty zone while she is with OM
This is your third test. And, this is what I meant when I suggested that you become the new OM in her life. That creep she's with now will eventually lose his attraction (whatever that was) and you will be shinning bright. But you have to get him out of your focus. He's the stumbling block.
Quote:
but I guess I have no choice if I want her back.
Yep!
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
