85 Days

[Denver_2010]

so where does having the A, fit in with things?

I do not see this post as inspiring. It shows that you still don't get it after 5 1/2 months.

Yes you want to stand for your marriages. Words. words. words.

I mean it's all great that we all "stand for our Ms" But crap that really gets us nowhere.

Actions speak, actions speak loud.

Many - I'd like to know what it is that you think that I don't get?? I'm not familiar with your sitch, but I find it curious that you are here on 'divorcebusting.com' and yet you believe that standing for your M will get you nowhere.

maybe...

But I do know where NOT standing for your M will get you... DIVORCED

AND... having learned nothing from it.

There is nothing wrong with that if that is YOUR personal choice. However, the vast majority of people here on this board do NOT want to end up THERE...

These people are taking the road less traveled... the hard road.

You suggest that STANDING for your M is just a word... or that I am just using words? I'm not sure what you are saying. But I can tell you that it has been much, much more than words for me... IT IS an ACTION... and it has been, BY FAR, the hardest thing that I have ever done.

I think that you diminish what everyone here is trying to do when you say that. So, I'm afraid that you are the one that does not get it.... at least not yet.

Take a look in the mirror and ask yourself what it is you hope to accomplish by being here. There is so much to gain if you choose to do work at it... maybe you can save your M... maybe you can't... but I guarantee you that you will walk away a better person if you choose the path that most of us here have chosen... and it's NOT the easy one.

Denver