Don't forget, if your W is MLC... there is NO understanding her mental state. The moment you think you're "on to something" it will change. Especially if you try to use any of your newfound "knowledge" to address those things you've found...
I get that on the friend's interfering thing. Sometimes friends want to be helpful so that we're happy again. And that generally makes things worse, it seems...
Well I'm happy you're GALing. Tango, eh...? 
