The Planet Of Fulfillment

[Busting Mode]

Thanks D,K and A.

So. The title of this thread. "The Planet Of Fulfillment". I chose this title as a way to help me move through all the pain that I am so often feeling, and finally lift myself up to the levels of Love where I belong.

Couple of nights ago, I had a conversation with a friend who said something like "Think of the context in which you live your life as being like a planet you are on."

In other words, the context in which you put things becomes your whole world and everything all around you.

For example, up until we had that conversation, I realized I had been living on "Planet Desperation".

Now on that planet, everyone in the world, myself included, is desperate for something or someone they don't have. So they do all kinds of crazy, desperate things to try and get this thing they feel they lack. They do everything they can, desperately trying to get their needs fulfilled, any way they can.

It's a very lonely planet. People are always just walking around talking to themselves, rarely looking up and rarely being fully present with other people. Indeed, most of the people there just use other people. They can't really ever be there for other people, because they are so focused on themselves and somehow getting whatever it is they lack.

On Planet Desperation people ALWAYS feel like they are lacking something, or that something is still missing, or that they are somehow incomplete.

They feel inadequate. Not good enough. Like they are unable to keep up or compete. They feel undeserving. Unworthy. And so they desperately try to prove and how lovable and deserving they are.

They try to impress other people, and they where masks pretending to be something they are not, and they tolerate things and compromise and constantly lower their standards out of desperation to feel loved. or to feel happy, or to fulfill whatever the emptiness is inside of them.

They are people who are never satisfied. People who are always hungry and thirsty and afraid even when their belly and well is full.

I could go on and on here but I think it's pretty clear. Life on planet desperation is a very bleak, tiring, unfulfilling and definitely unattractive place to be.

So then my friend says "Well what if you had a spaceship that you could jump in right now and leave that planet immediately? What planet would you fly to?"

And so I chose the context of my life right now to be all about fulfillment. On this planet, everyone is already whole and complete and perfect within themselves. Nobody is ever really lacking, or wanting or needing of anything they can't have, and anytime they do want or need something, it is such an abundant, luscious place to be that there are an infinite number of ways they can get there needs fulfilled.

Everybody knows that somewhere within themselves they are part of something so much bigger than themselves and we all know there is no reason to be afraid of missing out or losing anything because it's all just a great big heaping smorgasbord of experience and wow.

The people here aren't so attached to having only one specific flavor of experience. They delight in every bite!

On this planet desperation has been abolished and I am no longer being dependent on anybody else for anything. I already know I already have everything I need within myself to feel happy and fulfilled anytime I want.

On this planet I am no longer desperate to win her back.

I am whole and complete within myself, and their is an unlimited number of ways I can get my needs fulfilled, and to help others feel whole and complete and fulfilled within themselves.

We all do what we gotta do in order to be happy and move through pain. I just find it really useful to use strategies like these which give me power over the meaning that I give to things, and therefore power over the feelings that I have, the actions that I take, and the results that I produce.

Yes. It hurts that she is with another man. And, I had already prepared myself for it. And thankfully, knowing that it has happened feels so much better than waiting and wondering and worrying it would happen.

Now I simply know and can do anything I want with the knowledge.

So right now I am still looking at this time I have on my own as "an opportunity to restore my integrity" and get back to a place where I am TRULY feeling happy within myself.

I have not yet chosen whether or not to "close the door but leave it unlocked" as I read in somebody else's thread, but I really like the sounds of that so we'll see how I feel tomorrow.


Goodnight everyone.

Thank you for the Love.

Mike