Lorie, I do not want to bring up the OW. I feel that bringing up OW would validate the R they have. I know she is only a bandaid. If H wasnt going through MLC he would not be with her. She is not his type physically or mentally.
Bringing her up or not, she still exists and being honest is the best thing you can do and not be in denial. You can tell him however you want, but tell him that being friends is all you can offer because you respect yourself too much for it to be anything else. I will forewarn you, that being friends is really hard when they are in MLC. I am friendly with H when he is around, but I wouldn't say we are friends, I tried that, but then he would ignore my texts when he was with OW. He would lie about things and generally not try to be friends, just parents. So, that is where we are now, just parents to our daughter. Nothing else, and I am fine with that now, it keeps me off the roller coaster.
Blessings,
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
