H sent me some messages today about whether I'd gotten appointments with a C or not & what my plans were. I said we could talk about it at home. I needed to prep myself for the conversation.
When he came home I was busy doing stuff - cleaning, etc. I tried to keep upbeat and matter-of-fact during the conversation. I told him that I didn't know what my plans were and I didn't know how long this was going to take me to figure it out. He isn't happy with the ambivalence but he understands that I have huge decisions to make.
I tried to steer the conversation into unexpected areas today, per the DB coach's advice. I smiled as much as possible but it probably wasn't quite as vibrant as it could have been.
Not a surprise but he said he will probably get an apartment now due to the fact he doesn't know how long I'm going to take. I told him I was willing to try to make this home living situation work - if we wanted to schedule time in the living room I would honor any rules set forth and give him his space, etc. He's just so terribly uncomfortable right now and wants out... so I said I understood.
It was basically setting down what I need (time and counseling), validating and keeping a positive upbeat attitude.
