Since being seperated H and I have ML twice. The first time I didnt know he had OW. Second time I did but wanted to do it also. Did I feel bad about it afterwards - yes because I wanted more. More emotionally that is. I felt used like I was the OW.
I know that H still has feelings for me. Buried deep deep down. I still see him checking me out all the time. And I can sense the advances that he makes.
I do not want to ML to him anymore until he is done with OW. I have respect for myself. I will not be used. I am not his cake.
But I need help with how to say this to him. He has been flirting with me over text. When he next does this I thought I could write the following:
H
I know you want to be with me. And I want to be with you. But until we find a way to be together then we should focus on being friends. Hopefully we wont have to wait too long before we can be together again.
Me
Let me know what you think? Suggestions are welcome.
W - 31 H - 33 Married - 7 years Together - 10 yrs Kids - S 3yrs old Separated - 27/03/11 OW - 10/04/11
