Rysmom I felt the same way as you about my h's lifestyle and sinful ways. The problem is/was I let him know it. I know now that I didn't need to point out all of this stuff to my h that wasn't my job. That was for God to handle.

I was not a good DB'er. My voice got the best of me. I also carried all my resentment hatrid anger in my heart, so our marriage could have never been restored. I needed to be healed. God gave that gift to me. Once I was healed then it led a path for our marriage to be retored and God just did the rest.

I hung onto those hurts for so long, but once that mask was lifted from my soul it allowed my heart to be filled with God's love. I just found myself living my life for really the first time. Talking to strangers, being happy, loving God instead of this hurt, angry person that I had been for so many years. It was such a liberating experience that I can't even describe to someone unless you have actually experienced it. All the hurts everything was gone out of my soul. Gone! It was amazing!

God allowed me to really love others for the first time in my life. Best gift he could of also given me.


Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"