As much as I dont want to, I think you are right Lorie. I need to limit my contact with MIL. We have been having these weekly coffee catchups to discuss H. But I dont think that its helping. She is being supportive but at the end of the day there is nothing she can do to ultimately help the situation and by having the meetings (which H knows about) it prolongs my ability to detach.
I also think that H may see this a being manipulative. H may perceive that MIL and I are conspiring against him. And not see it for its true intention which is to help him get through this process.
OK this has helped alot - I will speak with MIL this week. Its gonna be tough - weve been through a lot together. But I believe its for the best. Thanks to all who helped me realise this.
H text last night. He was unsure what day he told me that he would be coming round to see S. Tonight or tomorrow? Dont think he knows what day it is sometimes. I was in a playfull mood. I wrote the following: Both! jks. Just let me know which day and Ill let S know.
He didnt reply. I wasnt bothered much. He replied at 5am this morning. Think he might be playing games. H said he will be coming tonight. H also asked me to bring some of his coats/jackets as its getting quite cold here in Oz.
Just about to order a copy of DR. Hope it comes soon.
W - 31 H - 33 Married - 7 years Together - 10 yrs Kids - S 3yrs old Separated - 27/03/11 OW - 10/04/11
