Let's make it clear what it (might) feel like for her, what is it, less than a week after ANOTHER woman told her you had been shagging on the sly.
First, like an earlier poster said, own it. You made the choice to have an affair. Why didn't you think it was wrong, what was your rationalization? You could have just as easily woken up one day and said, ya know, I'll try heroin today or I'd like to wear lady high heels to work. You made a choice, why was that your choice?
Second, the best way that I was able to describe the shock after finding out about an affair was it was like I dropped a glass off the table and instead of falling to the ground, it flew up. Marriages don't break like cups, really. They just really float off into space, the final frontier. There is no chart of how deep and dark it can be.
Third, all you do is keep talking about you, which makes sense, you go after what you think you deserve. I don't know your wife, but if you want just a tiny taste of what she might be feeling is imagine the loudest, most explosive orgasm you've ever had with her, and think about that sound coming from her with another man.
Imagine HIM all over (up, under, behind, and in) HER.
