my h and son gave me necklace

[MrBond]

rysmom,

I was reading glamgirl's excellent post when I noticed that you had responded to her. There was something in your response that I think is very important to your sitch.

You said: "My h i into a lot of dark stuff, porno, heavy metal, howard stern radio show all day, all evil stuff, and making a lot of money that corrupted him"

First off, there is nothing "evil" about heavy metal, howard stern, etc. If you take it for regular entertainment value. I personally listen to heavy metal and don't think it makes me "evil".

All of those things are your H's choices. They don't make him into who he is. Plus when you are so condemning, why would he want to come back? What if he likes heavy metal from now on? Would you not accept him back if he listens to it? Accept him the way he is now. That's why he's with the OW.

The most important thing you need to do is let it go. You have to accept the fact that at least for now, he likes those things and truly forgive him. And you have to forgive the OW.

If you read glamgirl's post, the most important message was forgiveness. Once she did that, God was able to do His work. Plus you need to forgive for yourself. Holding onto the anger, resentment, fear, pain, is digging you further into a hole.

Forgive and be free. It's not easy, but you have to do it for your sake.