You can surround yourself with people who condone your unhealthy choices, or don't challenge them or don't even know you enough to do that. You can create a whole new reality when you choose this and leave all the tough stuff behind you. You don't want to go back to the people who challenge you. The people whose trust you damaged because of your choices. Who may look at you and have opinions of you because of your actions. They don't care about you really, they only really care about me and they don't know that it was all my fault. That I was making you behave that way. That behavior of yours that gave them great concern for me and my well being. I will tell them all it was my fault. That will solve the problem. I made you do it.
I agree it is easier to be the victim of me. I drove you to your choices because I didn't accept the ones you were making. I didn't want them as part of my life. An alcoholic friend living with us? Everyone should have one it's fun. I created such an unbearable marital environment and forced you to behave the way you did. To seek solace from another man.
You are right. My friends and family never gave you a chance, they never were on your side. You don't want to go back to those feelings and that is all because of me. I am responsible for their opinion of you. You went into crisis because of me.
I don't blame you for not wanting to work on our M. That is a horrible, challenging thing to overcome. And you have been through enough. You deserve better. If I was the victim of my behavior toward you I wouldn't want to work on our M either.
It is easier to run away and confirm to everyone including yourself that you are not worthy of their trust. That their opinion of you is the truth.
I give up. You have convinced me. I believe you.
I finally believe you.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
