Same boat here man. I've decided that I need to concentrate on being myself...and for me, that does mean flirty when it's appropriate. Dim is the way to go.
As you know, my friends that do know what's up with the sitch have said just drop her and move on...but that's not what I want, and I don't think it's what you want with your W.
We've both chosen the hard road, but the end result could be so worth it!
BITS M: 35 W: 27 T 7.5 years M 5 years No kids My EA: 3/08 Her EA: 1/11, discovered 3/11 (ongoing?) ILYBINILY, D mentioned 3/8/11 W at parents house: 4/16/11