I agree with LP & Country. It was good to show her you are listening, but trying to read her mind can be a slippery slope. I'm not going to fault you though, because I have recently had a very similar conversation with my W.

We are all walking the tightrope here.

I would agree with you that you are not a place where you need to be completely dark, you just need to keep a loving distance.

BITS
Me:46 / W:47 / M:19 / T:21 / S13
Bomb#1: 5/8/2008
MC: 5/2008 - 4/2010
Bomb#2: 2/10/2011
W moves out 5/7/2011

'With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.' - Matt. 19:26