Chris I hope you understand that I applaude your honesty in owning up to what you did; here of all places.
What you don't seem to grasp are a few of the following things.
You don't get a choice in her reaction to this; she didn't get a choice in your decision to have an affair. It really doesn't matter what YOU think is harsh, it matters what she thinks.
Go ahead and tell her it's not fair; advice, call a doctor and have a room at the nearest hospital waiting for you though.
She is going to rebuild her trust for you in HER time, not in yours or what YOU think her time should be, and she is only going to rebuild that trust if you are worthy of it.
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I asked her if she could find a way to forgive me and allow me to earn her trust again. All she could say was "I don't know".
Stop asking and show her.
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I have been a faithful husband for 15 years and a good father.
Get over that, you WERE a faithful husband for 15 years...now you're not. Faithful is no longer a descriptive word for you anymore.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
