I'm lost. need help with WAW

[GAL Man]

These are the updates from the WAS thread, thought I would put it all here.

Zero 12, thanks for reading my sit and giving advise

I,m not a patronising person, sarcastic at times, well maybe at little now thinking about it.

I believe she may have found a rental from next Friday! but would need my help, i.e money! Should I move out to friends until then or stay here?

Strange, she was away last night on business, but text me twice during the day, which I responded to after about 4hrs saying "hi, got your messages, really busy, hope your well". I think I did the right thing (I haven't got the db book yet)
She replied with "I," fine, be home tomoz" which I again ignored, but then at 10pm I got a message to say she had landed at destination safely!!!!!!!!!

Why would she do that if we have S?

Its only been a couple of weeks, and I deserve a medal already for my acting, D told W I was really happy atm, but I'm not, and this detatchment is hard to say the least.






W just got home

Rental is on a monthly basis which is better I suppose, but she is moving out next Friday.

I told her I didn't want her to move out I wanted to work at things, but it is her descsion to do so, she has to do what is right for her and I wouldn't appose it.

W said she is tired and going to bed

W is already going off on one to D!!

Do I want this?!?!?!?!





Very strange convo, I could see she was itching to find out what I had been up to, and kept asking, so I said doing new things, been out and about and ordered a few books to read LOL.

I didn't ask her anything what she had been doing at all, then W says who were you out with Sat night as her friend had seen my mates and I wasn't with them, I said that doesn't matter, to W's reply, were u out with x, as she likes all of your fb status's. This is a woman who really wanted me quite a few years back when W and I first got together, I worked with her, that was it, W knows this as well!

She is staying over again for work on FRi night and said is going to have a few drinks with workmates at Hotel as she said I go out every week, I said I feel she is forcing me to go out...

Still dont know if I should move out next week or not... Moving out means NC, staying home with W here means LC (professional). Have not got db yet but I think that is correct




W wants me to give her £2k by next Wednesdaay for the deposit and rent, do I give it to her?

Also, should I tell her once more before she has to comit to the rental that I don't want her to go or just leave it?




Thanks again Zero

Things took a bad turn over the weekend when I found out that she has just started to see OM for a couple of dates. She has insisted that that is only it (just going out for drinks and spending a day with him) and started 2 weeks after we separated, I was gutted to say the least, and when she got back from staying over for work again we had a big row. W insisted that she has done nothing wrong as its only dates and we are separated anyhow.

After leaving to calm down we had a very amicable conversation, and she apologised for letting me find out in the way I did, and said she would have done the same if in the same position and should have considered my feelings.

I still feel that she is moving this very fast to just run away, she wants no furniture (except some old units in the garage), although the place she will be renting has no furniture. She said to me she hasn't thought about taking Friday off to move in or even about essentials like plates, cups etc or even a sofa or bed!

I will be giving her some money for the deposit, as I think this is amicable, plus I need her to move out ASAP for me, so I can GAL and think out me.

I said to W that in 14 years all I have ever done is put my wife and the kids first, and have forgotten about me.

MIL called yesterday morning and we had a long chat, MIL was gutted over the situation and thinks W is having a MLC. MIL kept saying how sorry she was and I am welcome over anytime.

I have always had a good sense of humour, with a bit of sarcasm in, this is one of the areas which W liked in me at the beginning, but as I have been so low with the S and the way the W had been treating me this had seemed to disappear somewhat, I need to get this back and have started good inroads.

I haven’t talked about the R, all I said a few days ago was to let her know my position, in that I didn’t want her to leave, she needs to do what is right for her, and I felt the issues we had were not insurmountable, that is all I said and left it there. We talked about bills etc, and I said to her that although she has never done that as I assumed that role she is a very cleaver lady who would have no problem figuring things out, we also talked about washing and ironing as I did some the other day, basically saying that we can both do all things, but in our M we had assumed these roles.




It really hit me hard today that W has started to see OM. I was dealing with the S and R quite well and starting to GAL, but I can not deal with this. How can she be so insensative.

I really dont know what is going on in her head ATM

I just dont know what to do or say anymore!





Thanks to Zero12 for replying so far