Is my LRT working?

[Tomtom]

Hi all,
English is not my native language. I apologize in advance for possible misspelling/grammar mistakes.

My situation in short: My wife since almost five years told me in January that she wanted a divorce. During the past months I have done everything wrong, I’ve begged, pleaded , cried and given her flowers etc only to push her further away until she told me two weeks ago that she had had enough and will get the D. She also moved to a separate bedroom. During the whole time she told me several times that ‘I love you, but am not in love any more’ and we have actually had some good times at home when not arguing about our relationship.

After her ‘final’ decision to split up, I have done things more correctly. I came across the DB book and am currently doing the Last Resort Technique since about a week ago. I then told her that I accepted her decision and that I think she is right about it. I have tried to act as if I am relieved and have started to spend more time by myself and with friends. Her immediate response was that she was feeling glad for me that I was not unhappy anymore.

Things have changed in the sense that she is not feeling sick when she sees me anymore. From an outside perspective we probably look like a perfectly happy and normal family. We both spent much of the past weekend at home doing garden work and cooking together. I do my best trying to be as positive as possible and I have completely changed the behavior that used to annoy her. We do a lot of smalltalk and she asks questions about my day and my activities etc. I am very cautious not to suggest any common activities or talk about the future.

At this point, I don’t know what to believe. She is acting like she is perfectly happy and she is very friendly to me. I can’t help to believe that this is because she is relieved that I have finally agreed to the D and that we are not arguing anymore. After all, she is still sleeping in a separate bedroom and is not wearing her wedding ring anymore. On the other hand, she has not yet mentioned our separation. We both know that both of us want to stay in the house, so this is something that needs to be discussed. The other day, she also gave me a pretty nice gift for my birthday and even offered to make me a birthday cake! I can’t believe this. What is going on here? I should also mention that my wife doesn’t change her mind very easily. I know that she has given this a lot of thought and that she really sees D as the only possibility.

What should I do now? I am tempted to suggest that we go for some common activity with our kid (a three year old) next weekend, but it might be too early for this. Should I maybe even bring up the subject of separation and talk about which one of us is going to move out? This seems like speeding up the D, but maybe it is the right thing to do to surprise her? It would really be a 180.

I would be grateful for any advice in this situation.