i don't have any advice as i am in the same situation except i'm in your W position, my H messed up, i dropped the rope and i'm now sort of seeing someone else now my H is now fighting for our M and i don't know what to do.
I'm also scared of my H just saying and doing the right things for now but not really changing and i'm now confused as whether to fight for our M or take a chance with the OM?
I'm currently trying to reconnect with my H as for both of us we just can't seem to let go of each other so there is something there. Maybe that's something you could do? just try to be friends at least?
The OM is probably not who she wants but she needs the comfort, i know that's how i feel right now.
It will be interesting to see what advice you get from others especailly the veterans, but you have come to a good site the info and peoples post have been inspirational to me and i hope you get the same comfort and understanding to be able to reach a better place int your sitch.
