I am very close to my MIL, for the past 20 years she has been more of a mother to me than my own and we have been like best friends at times. I keep my relationship with her close to my heart, but I will say it has helped me to detach by not being in contact with MIL as much. My H too lived with my in-laws at first, and finally moved in with OW. I took MIL to breakfast for Mother's Day and we had a great talk. I expressed how much I loved her and that we will always have a special relationship, but for my own mental well being I have to have distance at this time. My H is her son, one of only two children, I know she wants to make things better, but she cant. I also know that she won't want to lose contact with her son as she has with her other son. This whole situation is messy, and I love her and it breaks my heart that I have to back off from her in order for me to heal emotionally.
I am saying all this because you do have to be careful with your own mental well being and the motives behind all interactions with in-laws, it could all backfire one day. Blood is thicker than water. I have seen the backfire in action. Just be careful and think about your motives when you talk with MIL about H.
Blessings,
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
