sorry if I'm repeating myself, but on the off chance I have not told you this, I DO know people who have div and remarried their ex's later. Two family members in fact, and both said the 2nd time around was better. But years had passed between the first and 2nd marriage and all parties changed a lot for the better. One person got sober, which helped! The others got rid of their anger issues, all of them lost their "grievance list," and all of them learned how to forgive...
Those are things that can apply to anyone (whereas not all pro marriage advice fits each couple) so keep it in mind.
Finally, since each person believed that the m had died, They moved on. They grew, took up new interests (=GAL), did some 180's, and evolved...none of them planned or assumed the ex would return. They just moved on but shed their baggage.
B/c of children, SOME contact was inevitable, even if very limited. After a few years of family events, each person learned to feel more comfortable around the former spouse.
At some particularly momentous event, the couple had coffee & talked & listened. Finally one day, one of them asked the other if they had found more happiness outside of the marriage. They each admitted that in fact, they had learned a lot but had not found the grass to be greener on the other side. (As they say, "the grass is greener where you put the most water"). And they missed the other...
So they began dating again. And remarried. My uncle passed away a few years ago but at his death bed stood my aunt, and all their children. That would not have happened if they had not remarried.
Take whatever applies and see if it helps.
good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
