wife having affair - please help

[facingdivorce]

Journaling here, So better day to day went and saw my ic, he thinks im handling things well, though he thinks my wife is lying at the extreme end of the spectrum..

Anyway i rang OM's other office and left a message with the receptionist to tell him to leave my wife and children alone, she was gasping as i quietly said my three sentences ( i had carefully written it out before) So now i also have the evp of hr contact details so will call them tomorrow. I think then that is enough exposure to him.

I also changed my mobile number today, the other one was in my wifes name so she got the phone logs.

I also met the bank started sorting out money and accounts, which will all be closed by Thursday.My waw is going to go nuts , but she has spent a huge amount of money in the last 5- 6 weeks.

I cant see her reacting well to all of this, ive gone dark, her om has been outed at their work, bank has been notified and funds halved, plus joint bank account closed. And she wont be able to sms me.

So i am working through what to say if she does contact me, i am on the Act dont React policy, so every contact has to be strucured. She will view this as me punishing her, which isnt the case, but no matter what i do, I am going to be positioned as the bad guy.

I feel better for taking action, but i dont want to act in a malicous manner at all, so im kind of giving the affair its own seperate identity.

Ok will now see what happens over the next week. We have lift off!