Just spoke to MIL on the phone. Thanked her for the lovely mother’s day card and present - at least she gave me one. H didn’t even acknowledge it. To be expected.
I expressed my concern that H now had hold of his old credit card. Limit $25K. He maxed out his other one - $6K in a matter of weeks, as well as blowing most of our money and savings. This is his personal card so I am not able to stop him accessing/using it.
MIL told me that she knew that H wanted to look for a new job because he wanted more money. H felt that his current job wasn’t paying him enough. MIL and FIL have expressed their concern about his spending and they have told him that they are in no position to help him should he get into trouble.
MIL told me that she thought it was OW’s influence that he was spending all his money. Because of her mental illness she was prone to spending and erratic behaviour. Not sure that H will recognise this.
MIL is a counsellor and has given me good advice to date. But sometimes I do question whether or not I should be talking to her. I talk to her for 3 reasons: 1. She is family 2. She is a counsellor and has provided me with good advice 3. She is H’s mother and he is currently living with so good insight
She has had a few conversations with H. She is not pushing him in any way. She has given him a few things to think about but is cautious not persuade him. I thanked her for her support to H.
We have a regular Thursday coffee meeting. Do you guys think I should stop this or continue?
W - 31 H - 33 Married - 7 years Together - 10 yrs Kids - S 3yrs old Separated - 27/03/11 OW - 10/04/11
