Well, so now the hard part starts, because she's visible again, in the form of facebook updates, seeing her online, etc. So we're still not communicating except via one-way messages (in other words, we see each other's updates, and she reads my blog).
So the curious part is what I make available. I'm talking with a coach again tomorrow, and we'll see what Jody has to say about the evolving situation.
Myself, I'm losing hope in a big way. But I've got an AWESOME support system here in terms of friends and family (no family in the area but sister is coming out for a few weeks and parents a couple weeks after that), doing a lot of GAL stuff, and while I'm really sad (lots of sobbing today seeing her actually finish driving away and arriving at her destination with her neopagan friends) I'm doing a LOT better overall than I by rights should.
By now, the sadness is almost... less missing her than grieving for what was one of the best friendships and marriages I've ever seen, and truly just not understanding what happened in two years to make it come crashing down like this. As others have said, it's almost like losing your loved one to a disease that reanimates their body.
The hard part is yet to come if legal stuff happens, particularly if we become enemies. Many things I can even equitably split, but there are a few showstoppers which will get NASTY (like garnishing my pension).
