Sweetie, I think I told you that you will be feeling all kinds of things in the coming days and weeks. It is normal to feel lost.
While many feel it is just a piece of paper, I dont completely agree. It is the legal dissolution of a long term marriage. And that, no matter how you slice it, is a sad thing.
It is so not what you thought your life was going to be like. And while you think going through this that you've wrapped your mind around that, often when the divorce is final, you realize you havent totally.
Your h had no choice in his crisis but to blame you. If it wasnt your fault, then it was his and that is just more than they can handle.
I know it hurt. I'm so sorry it did.
I will tell you that it will be awhile before your xh realizes that you are not the cause of his unhappiness. He is not happy now. He just doesnt know why.
P, be kind to yourself in the coming days. I always say you feel what you feel.
