Just having an overall bad day. PMA is so low after last night. GAL is not happening very well. I'm feeling a bit lost about what to do and I'm in limbo. Do I GAL here? Do I stay? Do I go? I don't know what the "right" move is right now.
This seems like a good time to take stock of what's working and what's not.
Yesterday you said you believed your presence in the house was making him uncomfortable and then you engaged him in a long relationship talk. Do you think that helped?
How can getting a life hurt?
If I were you I'd give him lots of space, avoid any relationship talk, don't move out, get busy developing other interests, hit the gym every time you can (particularly on a bad PMA day), don't resist him, give him nothing to push against and get to work making a plan to embrace your sensual side. Nothing is more attractive to a man than a woman who understands and owns her sexuality. That's just my opinion.
[quote=calystra]I'd really like to get in for a 1 or 2 day intensive with MWD but I'm not sure how to convince the H at this point. I wonder how some of those couples did that... [/quote
Must your h know of all this? I'm not saying to deceive him but I cannot imagine involving my h in these goals, or all the DBing, or he'd feel manipulated (or so I think). Plus the stuff about making you feel attracted to him cannot be good for his ego. I NEVER involved my h in any of the DBing. just mho.
Last, let me re=cap something I told another person.
They call it making love for a reason. It's not all about lust and physical release, though that's part of it sometimes. Sometimes that is all there is, and each couple has those times.
But it also comforts and not just after a rough day at work. When my mil died, h seemed to want more intimacy and I'm quite sure he wasn't feeling "hornier" but rather, H wanted the comfort that ML can give. Also it can be part of an apology, to reaffirm the bond or reassure. Or an act of forgivness to let your partner know you really are alright after the big fight. Or an act of celebration after a wedding, or when your child graduates from college, as ours did yesterday. It was a celebratory night...So I think there's so much more to making love than simply the sex part.
While I think you already knew that, maybe seeing it in writing can help you explore ways of looking at ML apart from the physical aspects...hope this helps.
Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
