I keep starting a reply here, and keep deleting and starting again. What I want to say is hard to put into words succinctly.
This is hard, and it hurts like He!! Going through the divorce was so hard when I know in my heart that I still love the man. But I accept that to stay in this situation not only continued the hurt, but continued to give him an excuse not to move forward. Why should he when he can just blame everything on me? I had to take myself out of the equation.
Facing that there is absolutely nothing we can do in this situation is horrible for people like us. Letting go and letting God is much easier said than done. But all the homilies ( if you love something, let it go, if it comes back, blah, blah, blah) have more than a grain of truth to them.
I believe there is no "too late". Although going through with this is killing you inside, it may be the only way to unstick the situation your W finds herself in.
So do whatever you believe in your heart is the right thing to do at this point, whether that is to proceed with a divorce, or continue as you have, but try your hardest, either way, to let God be the pilot not the co-pilot on this one. ( Am I the winner of greatest amount of homilies in one sentence, or what)
