That really is a good thing Tad. You did something for you by not being there. You can appreciate the comments. Give her that distance more and more. Don't respond to emails or texts or phone calls any more than you feel like doing. Why? Because it is not good for you at this point.
Remember that she is not the person you knew. She doesn't even know herself right now which seems evident from the comments to your sons.
Over time, she will figure things out. She will re-establish relationships with your sons. Let that happen. Be neutral yet encouraging to your sons if the opportunity arises.
You will be the last person she tries to reconnect with. Really. The changes have to occur at this point - let them at a distance.
Time Tad. That's the only thing.
You have been hurt Tad. Your emotions are crazy and nutty. But believe me, they are nothing like what she has - she has the added burden of the guilt. Be compassionate in that regard. Take the high road where you can. And I think you know that you can text her happy mother's day or you cannot. It's up to you and if you decide to do that, only do it for you and not for her. Remember that you do not know this woman that she is right now. Would you say that sort of thing to somebody you don't know?
How's that bowling? AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
