I think Cyrena was right on when saying that it's not time for Retrouvaille. That's for mending a relationship. That requires two healthy whole people. That does not exist. Any attempts to mend a marriage with a "broken" person like your H will most likely not work. Your still WAY too focused on your R. Keep the focus on you, as difficult as it may be. And believe me, I know how difficult that is. In order for your H to do the work he needs to do on himself, he needs to have the freedom to do so. He can't do that when he's got the pressure of trying to maintain a marriage on top of that. Give him the time and space he needs and use that time to YOUR advantage.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
