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Thanks for your time in answering me Glamgirl.
I guess I don't know what to pray for anymore.
I pray for restoration of my marriage.
I pray for my H. to gain a relationship with God although my own is shaky.
I pray for help that I'm going in the right direction.
I pray for all the hurting people on this forum.


Seems all I can do, I am doing.


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Hi SC. I'm in the same boat, but you know what? God DOES work in mysterious ways. Have you ever heard that song "Unanswered Prayers" by Garth Brooks? Check it out if you haven't.

I sometimes feel that I'm being ignored, but I continue to pray. I pray for my W, my kids, my M and strength for me. I pray 2-3 times a day.

Remember....the squeaky wheel gets the grease!

I'll pray for you tonight as well.

Tad


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SC I assure you that God loves you more than you could ever imagine. So much that he gave his only son so that you can be saved and go to Heaven.

Tad I have felt like my prayers was not getting anywhere BUT I know God is listening and by my side. Our time and Gods time might not be the same. God can see my future, he knows EVERY step I make before I take them. If we would just let God do his work and quit trying to help, it would be so much easier.
I look at it this way. We, as parents know what is best for our children. We can sometimes talk to them until we are blue in the face and it gets us nowhere. Sometimes lessons have to be learned the hard way. God gives us free will.....but if we want to make the right choices and take the best path, we need to talk to him daily and let him lead us. After all, he did walk on water and calm the raging sea.

Praying for all of us!
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Scylla you are doing it all so well. Just pray for whats on your heart. You know, God just wants us to have a relationship with him he wants you to pray and talk to him and that is exactly how it starts.

Believe me when my h was gone for 3 years I had doubts that God was listening. He wasn't restoring my marriage, he wasn't bringing my h to find the Lord. None of my prayers were being answered, but I walked by faith and those prayers are being answered today. Who knew?

I do know though that just when I would start to give up something would happen either I would get an email of enouragement read a post h would stop by or call and I knew that God was giving me that encouragement I needed to continue on my journey.

Remember this is all on God's timing not yours. Hugs Scylla!


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Hi Glam,

So good to hear from you....and thank you so much for sharing your story...it will help to keep the hope alive for many here.

(((hugs)))


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Happy Mothers Day to all. I hope you all have a blessed day!


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Thanks for stopping my Mila. I check in on you on occassion and you seem to be doing well. I remember you posting for me to share, but back then I didn't feel like I could share since my marriage was really not restored, but I am simply amazed at what God has done with my life since. I know it's hard being here, so I wanted to offer hope to others and to also share the power of prayer.

I feel so blessed today and feel like a completely different person. God bless you!


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Glam, This is quite a story..... I'm trying to piece things in head about this. If I understand you correctly, your H came home and left again in Jan. of this year, he then comes home 2 weeks ago and then this OW dies a week after he comes home? I'm I correct in the timelines and events? If I am, Glam. Please be very careful, I know about the power of prayer, God's power, and miracles, but honey, your H has come and gone many times of the past 3 to 4 years and you have lost a lot during this time, just be very careful with this. As I remember, you were very confident about his return last time, then things went south. I'm not trying to be negative, but his past behavior warrants caution.

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BH thanks for stopping by. Rest assured I am cautious, but putting my faith in God. For accuracy, my H didn't come and go many times (twice). The difference now is that we have God on our side.

I don't recall posting that I was confident with his return. I hope I didn't portray that, but if I did it wasn't correct. My h was trying, I was checked out so I knew in my heart he would leave again in 2010. I gave him NO reason to stay. I do recall posting that reconciling is rough, but today BH we are different people and it's as if the past has been wiped clean.

God wiped the slate clean and for each of us it's as if God gave us a DO OVER. Nothing in life is guaranteed except death and taxes. God gave me an inner strength and love that I have never experienced before. He healed me BH from all my hurts, anger, resentment, pain. I am full of life now.

If my H walked out today BH it would be ok. Not that I want that to happen which I am confident it won't now, but I have so much love inside me today for God that it would not matter. God is here for me and that is all that matters.

I know that many probably will not understand my positioning unless you have been touched with the Holy Spirit with such depth, but when you are lead spiritually and not by your flesh and emotions nothing can tear you down or break that love.

It's hard for me to describe this new found love unless you experience it. Imagine going through every sec, min, hour, day, week, month, year with a smile on your face. That is really the best explaination I can give at the moment of how I feel inside. On fire for God!

God Bless!


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My H just left me for the 3rd time in the past four years last weekend. We have had no contact since. I was histerical for the first 5 or 6 days all over again. Crying, shaking, cant eat, cant sleep, lost 10 pounds, acne came back. Its like dey-ja-vue.

Anyhow, some how -some where- some way- mid way through yesterday for the first time since last week when he left it was like my tears just ran dry. I have no idea how or why (except maybe it was a message from God), I felt stonger, I held my head up, and I actually laughed and enjoyed the later half of my day. I have been praying since he left for God to put his hands on my H's shoulders and guide him to do what is right and healthy and to make him happy. I do not ask God to bring him home, God allready knows that I want that. So I focus my prayers around aking for guidance(for me and my H)and how to change the things I know I have the power to change within myself. I felt good when I laid down to rest that night, I felt strong, I felt like I know I can respect myself and get through this no matter the turn out.

Needless to say, at 2 am in the morning- I recieved a text message for the first time from my H about our Relationship. He text me: I really hope that we can be friends in time. I was shocked - wasnt sure if its the guilt he carries or what. But the more I think of it - I believe that the power of prayer is working.

I text him back and said I would like that too. He said: Great, I really mean it. I said, me too.

This is the first sign I have recieved to hold out and wait and keep on praying, and praying in helpful ways instead of begging God to bring back my H.

The only explanation I can put to all this is that God is listening, Maybe God only wants me and H to be friends and not Husband/wife. I can only accept what God brings my way, whether I like it or not. Even if my life ends up different from my own free-will and desires - I will trust that that is what God knows is right for me and I will accept it. I am still hopefull right now, that God is just giving us both the time to work on our own faults and try to resolve them before bringing our M back together. One way or the other, I will survive and I am sure I will be happier than ever - Some day.

Thanks all for listening,
TIPPER

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