I never thought I would be back here again....

[ninelives]

He sounds like he is pretty smug and you are letting him be to some degree. He knows he has you , plain and simple. There is no anxiety for him. AS soon as he decides he wants back in , there you are holding the door for him.

I dont know your husband obviously, but what if he felt a true sense of loss from you and that he lost you? Would things change?

I asked my wife how she will feel when and If she sees me around town with someone else. She has told me in the past that she wants to see me happy and that I should move on. But she said to me once that she is not sure how she would react when she saw me with someone else. She'll have to cross that bridge when she get to it.

Also one time she saw me talking to some ladies and reacted very poorly. My point, talk is cheap. Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words.

You know yo have to detach. You have been here long enough to know the prinicples of DBing.. IMO, if he sees no repercussions and knows you are ALWAYS there for him, then what does he have to lose.

just my two cents.

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