IDK BTM. What i did and this may be wrong, I bought a card and flowers from my kids and slipped in a handwritten note but did not mention ANYTHING about us. See my thread for further clarification.
Im not sure if most DBers agree with me but her MOM just died in March so I was adressing that more than anything.
As for "clearing the air" , really hold off on that for a long time and get some more insight on that. Not sure what good will come of that other than the ususal finger pointing on Why it happened and whos fault it was etc..
Sometimes you have to accept what cards you are dealt and play them the best you can. I know in my Sitch, rehashing the past was pointless and often history was rewritten and wasnt totally accurate.
Just my two Canadian pennies. 9
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