Still not sure what I'm going to do though. I agree it's going to be tough to go into it without any expectations, but I really want to go if only to catch up with some old friends and try to enjoy the city. Honestly, I'm thinking about just asking W what she wants to do. Feel like putting the ball in her court might be a better plan, and heck, if she doesn't want to go, I might just go by myself.
And I totally hear you on the gifts...not planning on doing anything as far as that goes. That was always a huge problem for us, one that W never talked about until after the bomb. She always felt like I bought extravagant gifts for her (which I did) and she never got anything for me that was anywhere near as nice. I never wanted anything more, but I see now what she was talking about...really lowered her self-worth more even though it was totally unintentional.
Oh well, who knows where things will be in 3 weeks, but I'm not going to force anything.
BITS M: 35 W: 27 T 7.5 years M 5 years No kids My EA: 3/08 Her EA: 1/11, discovered 3/11 (ongoing?) ILYBINILY, D mentioned 3/8/11 W at parents house: 4/16/11
