I may be misreading the email. She may be asking if she can just sign it May 31 -- same day as the court case. That way she doesn't have to miss more time from her precious job. That would make sense. Nothing is more important than her job.
I responded to the email: "What do you mean? You can go to (my L's) office and sign the papers. He just wants you to call ahead so the papers are ready.
I guess I'll wait to see how she responds.
I was out tonight with my church group. Only six of us showed up, but church 31 was one of them.
I am really, really infatuated with her. The highlight to my evening was when I was joking with another guy in the group about being too old to be in a 20s-30s singles group. She said she didn't know I was in my 40s. I told her I was 10 years older than her. She graduated high school in 1997. I graduated in 1987.
I was psyched she thought I was in my 30s.
Another point in the night, stuff about the D came up and she said she couldn't tell if I was excited or upset about it and I said I was both.
I really hope I have the courage to ask her out when this is over. And I really hope she says yes.
I had a two hour talk with my aunt today. I went over everything.
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Very good day today. Woke up in time to hit the gym in the morning. Picked up a friend and headed to Chicago where I watched my Cincinnati Reds beat the Cubs, 2-0.
Dropped my friend off at his sister's house. They invited me in for dinner. It was very, very good. They have a very nice family. So different than the train wreck that STBXW's family is.
Now, resting up. Very good mother's day.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
I think I'll be posting a lot the month leading up to D-Day. Got a text this morning from STBXW saying she'll pick up D8 today at 4 p.m. then go get D12 from school. That way we don't need the after school sitter. The girls have theater class at 4:45.
Well, I text back that I have a softball game at 5:30 p.m. and I can pick up D12 from school and get them both to theater class.
That way she doesn't have to leave work -- and more importantly -- I don't have to see her.
My goal is to be fine when I see her, but to limit those occasions as much as possible.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
I remember posting stuff last year...I was very much into the DB mode of things. I was finally feeling that I was able to swtich things around in my sitch.
Nope. I re-read some of those old posts and understood better where you were coming from. Of all the times to re-examine, I read that you are getting ready for a bittersweet ending to the ordeal. May 31st.
While I filed in Oct/10, it was just to save money. She had already contacted a lawyer to do the filing (and I was lawyerless - much cheaper). I want to not want to see her. Instead, I'm trying something I read - that kids want to see both parents happy when they're together and divorced. Still, I'm doing it your way by trying to limit those occasions in the first place~
OTM, Wii, a guy at my divorce rebuilding table -- which I'm late to -- had a good line a couple of weeks ago.
He said that I "need to get over" myself. It's yet another way of saying "move on."
I've been thinking a lot about what I can do in my time with them. I have to set as good an example as possible and I'm doing that 98 percent of the time. The 2 percent that I'm not is when I'm around STBXW.
That's the next big hurdle for me. I've crossed so much of the other stuff.
Interesting day, the executive editor of our newspaper retired. I have mixed feelings. As long as she was here, I knew I always had a job. BUT I also knew I'd never be promoted while she was here. I was in management in 2002-2003-2004 and we butted heads all the time.
So it's a mixed blessing. I could conceivably move up now once newspapers start growing again. I also could get a boss who doesn't like my come-and-go-as-I-please-so-I-can-see-my-daughters schedule.
Today was a good example. I didn't have any stories due for tomorrow and it was 90 degrees outside. So at 2:30 p.m. I headed home to see the girls and instead of coming back, we went swimming.
Not everyone will let that go.
Oh, that meant STBXW had to pick them up from my house and it was fine. The girls had fun. I had a good day.
My concern now is D12. She seriously needs to get healthier. She's going to hate it, but the weeks I have her this summer all she's going to find at the house is fruits and veggies.
Few bittersweet thoughts today. The next shoe to drop on that front is a message from L when she signs the papers. That'll be tough -- going in there and putting my name on the dotted line.
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OTM, Wii, a guy at my divorce rebuilding table -- which I'm late to -- had a good line a couple of weeks ago.
He said that I "need to get over" myself. It's yet another way of saying "move on."
That is a good line! Sometimes we can get caught up in navel gazing and forget there's a big world out there with lots of people and wonderful things to do. I think you're doing great in so many ways. You keep active and involved in things, try to look after yourself and your girls in a very difficult time for all of you. It's also OK to have those sad "what about me" feelings sometimes too. Grief is grief and I know with the recent loss of my Dad there are times it just hits and the best thing you can do is go for the ride and realize that the ride will change. It's the same with D, I think being balanced and allowing healthy grief is a good thing. But it's also important to carry on with life. Keep it up, CTH. I admire your attitude.
