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[tadpole1025]

Wow. Thanks Punkin, Seeking and AJ. A lot of good stuff right here. You are all right. Thanks for the 2X4's. I needed them.

So tell your son you are running to Wal-Mart and just leave.

I love Wal-mart!

How about if Tad just tells his son he has some errands to run. That way the boy doesn't really know where his Dad is going, and when his Mother asks him, S just says, Dad said he had some errands to run.

This would work as well Seeking.

Yours does, because she isn't sure yet. Sounds strange I know. She is still warring with herself and checking up on you is part of that.

She seems sure though AJ. I hope she IS warring with herself. I'm not so sure though.

Let me ask you something: when she left did you try to follow?

Yes. Well, actually I tried everything in my power to get her to stay.

Did you miss her?

Like crazy.

Do you think it would be different if you left her? I mean really left her? Think about that before you answer.

Hmmm. If I left her BEFORE? She'd miss me. If I left her NOW? I don't know. She thinks I am the devil. She may not miss me at all.

One example: she told me she never loved me. Was that how she felt? I don't know. Can't read minds.

Before she left, she actually told me that she didn't love me anymore than our dogs. Amazing isn't it?

Back away and let the woman grow. You are radioactive to her Tad. Remember that and remember to focus on you and the kids.

I'm trying buddy. Today was the first step.

She came and picked up S16. I was not here. I made sure I was long gone about 30 minutes before she was scheduled to pick him up. According to S18, she didn't even get out of the car. Not sure why. She usually does. She called S16 and told him she was waiting outside. He asked if he could bring his dirty laundry to her house so he could wash it because we didn't have time to get it done this week. She says: "I guess so. That's all I'm good for anyways."

Wow.

Does she have issues or what? Self-esteem?

She also tried to get S18 to come out to the car and talk to her. He wouldn't.

Anyways, it was tough not being here and not seeing her today, but you know what? I feel good. I still have my moments, but I feel good about today. I honestly thought that I would be weak and stay here, but I didn't. I got the hell out of here.

Tad