Further to my commitment to stop snooping, part of my rationale for doing this is a disturbing email I saw that my wife had sent to a friend of hers. I would check her BB on the odd occasion when she would leave it out. When she got back from her trip, I went into her purse one morning to see what contact she had with the OM on her return.
Friend: How are things going at home?
Wife: He rummaged through my purse the other day while I was in the shower. He purposely rearranged everything to let me know that he had been there and that he is still in control Part of his plan to try and mess with my psychi.
Friend: kick his ass...hard
Wife: the wheels of life turn slowly
Obviously, I should have followed the advice of many others here and not snooped. What is disturbing to me is her feeling that I am trying to mess with her head and that I am playing mind games with her.
The whole snooping thing has set me back big time, but it is a catalyst for further change and growth. Just not sure how I can overcome this warped sense of our relationship that my wife has.
