WAW Please Help Me.

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Well because it takes so long for these posts to be place on line I don't remember where I left off.

After "my wife" returned and said that she would consider mediation and firing her atttorney the next day she wrote me an email that essentially said that she had changed her mind. She was responding to my opening my own account and redirecting my direct deposit into it by saying I should have discussed that with her. *&*&#$$&_#$&@_& WTF. I should have discussed taking my own funds, establishing my own account and paying my own bills with her?????? Later this day we had a discussion about this. Not very productive. She stated that she would call me back later. I had been out for a few beers after playing basketball when she called. I stepped out and took the call. It was the same conversation. She said I took "drastic measures" by opening the account. She stated that I did not "trust" her enough to discuss it with her. OMG!! Where does this come from???

I finally mustered the courage to ask whether she felt that she brought any dysfunction or issues to the marriage. Previously, I had accepted the blame for the "controlling" behavior. She gave the examples, I stated that my reactions where "inappropriate." So the blame up to this point had been pretty one sided (MY SIDE). Her response was yes I have some issues, but only when you push my buttons.

That is classic.

We hung up.

The next day she calls me and leaves a really short message: "call me at work." I was on an interview panel and could not return the call. She calls me again and says: "I don't know if you got my message or if you are in meetings, could you call me back or maybe you don't want to call me back, have a nice day, bye."

I call back. She apologizes. No buts, ifs or becauses. She says she does not know what is going on. Does not know why she is reacting like this. Is in a "different/difficult" place. She says: "I know you have been trying." She says she wants to talk about mediation. Wants to set up a time to talk.

Later this night, she calls to tell me that she had lost her wallet. Left it on the car and drove off. It fell to the ground and was lost. She was frantic. I offered to help look for it. It was getting dark. Fortunately, moments later the credit card company called to say that someone had found it. She came over to my house, thanked me profusely. I hadn't really done anything. Then hugged me really tight and said: "It's great to see you." I don't know what the DBing response should have been but I said "it's great to see you too." "It's always great to see you."

She called later to give me an update on the lady who found the wallet and what she did where she lived, etc. Profusely thanked me again.

Who is this person?????????

What should I be doing??????????

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!