[quote=sandi2 Then you tell her it's not an option! It's not taking the pressure off her.....it's enabling her to have an A.
I know it probably doesn't make sense for you to tell her this, but I suggest you deal with her from a different angle. Make her think that you time for you to have a life of your own (and you do), instead of looking like the dedicated father who never does anything but work and be with his D. Even though those are worthy qualities, it won't win her back as much as if she thinks you are finding your own happiness without her. [/quote]
sandi,
I agree. I'm as as much a 'victim' of our M breakdown as her, more so even. I am the one that had to leave the family home. I am the one who is daily suffering the emotional effects of this situation. I did not choose to be where I am now. I am not having a cozy PA
I need time to heal, learn, grow and find happiness as much as she needs time to do whatever. I am not a doormat!!
ps. I have signed up to a dating site but I'm already having regrets. I think it is too soon for me. The only person showing any interest so far is I believe either a) attracted by my salary ( not massive but OK ) or b) getting hold of a UK passport by way of marriage. Jeez, the cr*p you have to go through just to GAL
FF999
Me 48 W 49 D19, S17, D14 Together 25yr, Married 22yr Me checked-out July 10, back Sept 10 W checked out Nov 10 Separated Dec 10 ILYBNILWY 2nd Apr 11 We're finished + D bomb 17th Apr 11
