Standing for my live-in MLC'er/WAS

[angel61]

I see the logic in the steps you have mentioned, and since you said they are familiar, I am assuming you have gone through them as well. I could not find your old threads - do you have a link? I am interested in reading you story, if you don't mind.

You are right, I think right now H still believes that he can do right by us but that he is resigning himself to a life of pain,(martyrdom!) but at the same time, his subconscious is looking for ways to ease the pain, and at the same time avoiding conflict. The sad part about avoiding conflict is that it still means lies and deception. In time he will realize that doing that actually hurts him more. The times he decides to put away his phone, and fully engage with us, I see just how happy he can be again, just like when he was on vacation.

I think it is inevitable that his demons will come around to hound him, no matter how he tries to run, and I see it coming sooner rather than later. He is showing signs of tiring.

Yes, he is a good man, and that is why I am standing by him. My demons sometimes try to convince me that he is not, especially when I get remiss in keeping up my spirituality, and that is whe I backslide.

I have mentioned Retrouvaille to him before and he did want to go, but he had a business trip during the time that there was one in our area. I will perhaps throw out the schedule to him and see if he is interested.