Tad, you are doing very well. And you won't piss me off. Really. I post to your situation because I think it may help to offer an opinion. To help you see things differently. From the eyes of somebody who's been there and done that.
I think as you get further away from ground zero, you'll more of the picture. Right now you are way too close. Many of the answers are over the horizon, my friend. For now, enjoy the questions
As for the kids? I can tell you they'll change their attitude. One thing about this situation is that it won't stay static for a very long time. Normal won't occur for a while longer most likely. The sooner you back off the quicker you can heal and so can she. Therefore so can the boys.
Consider yourself radioactive to her. The closer you get the sicker she becomes. I know this to be true because I'm done. I sometimes go back and poke her to keep things moving more than anything. I can very easily manipulate her now that I see the picture. I refuse to do so, but sometimes I do need to keep things moving to extricate myself from this completely. There is no relationship left in my marriage or with stbx. At all. She made sure of that and I was an unwitting accomplice in some of that. She very much was angry and wanted me to fight back. I refused. That part was good. Not giving her more space than I gave was not. I was too attached. I don't regret it, but I can see how it didn't and does not help
For the weekend? How about bowling?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
