I think Grace is right on, as usual. Maybe ask her what she thinks should be done instead of you offereing suggestions, no matter how good the intent.

If she always felt like her opinion didnt matter, she will react in a negative way no matter what.

This is a tough sitch to be in for sure but the kids need to be at the forefront always.

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BITS
M-46
W-42
M-16y
T-19 y
s10 s15
BombDec.19/09
Sep-F16/10
Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10
Recon July 5/10
PA foundOut- Oct 30/10
Mental HospNov/10
moved out Nov/10
Leg Sep Mar 15/11